If only we had a magic wand for happiness! Of course we don’t but there are simple practices which we can introduce into our daily lives that certainly are contributory factors.
1. If only….
Stop beating yourself up over bad decisions in the past. The past cannot be changed. It’s over and the future is yet to happen. The only thing that matters is what is going on around you at the present moment. So focus on the ‘now’ and find all the good that’s in it. It may be hidden but it’s lurking in the shadows, waiting for you to find it.
2. Let go of anger
It doesn’t matter if she was right or wrong. If you are still feeling anger over something you said or she said it serves no purpose. You will not be punished for your anger but you most definitely will be punished by it. Think too of the peace and calm you will feel once you turf the anger out of your mind. It’s worth the discipline.
3. Be yourself.
Too many people worry about what others think of them. We don’t need others to validate who we are. To allow that is only to decorate the ego. So find the confidence to be your authentic self. And yes, there may be some whom we can never win over. But ask yourself do you really need them? The answer should be no.
4. Do nothing – sometimes.
We were brought up to believe that being busy is good. Up to a point this is true. But the hectic schedules that some people superimpose on themselves can wreak havoc, both mentally and physically, in the longrun. So factor into your diary a Do Nothing Session. And in that time, relax and keep your mind focused on the present moment. This is the start of the vital practice of stilling the mind.
5. Control less, enjoy more.
We all know people who seem to get an insane pleasure about controlling everything around them, we call them control freaks and there is nothing attractive about that. I believe it stems from a struggle for certainty. But there is no certainty in this life except that we will die. So this is tantamount to fighting a losing battle. Give it up and step into line with the flow of life that is around you.
6. Sleep well.
Western medical science will have us believe that we all need eight hours. But in the Indian system of Wellness, Ayurveda, it is accepted that the three different dosha or Mind/Body types will vary. You may belong to my type which needs about five to six hours. So don’t feel pressurised into getting the proverbial eight hours and then panising because you didn’t. You simply may not need it.